Hello dear reader,
You may or may not remember a certain “wedding guy” writing a column a couple of months ago. Some of you may have expected the second installment to follow very shortly. I was also one of those people.
I think we all know what happened here. All the “ooh’s” and “aah’s” of being engaged were quickly replaced with “arrrghh!” and “we’re not going to have everything done in time”. This being our first time getting married, we were not quite as prepared as we could have been for everything.
We probably spent the most time looking for a venue. We drove from Joburg, to the West Rand, to Centurion, to Pretoria East, back to Centurion, to the Northern Province, and then we finally made a u-turn somewhere around Central Africa. We figured that the guests wouldn’t want to drive that far. And so here’s my first tip of this week: forget about the guests! It’s your day! If you can drive 5000 km to find the perfect venue, they can surely haul themselves to your ceremony.
Something that also took an insane amount of time was finding my wedding ring. Call me picky if you want, but I simply do not feel comfortable wearing something that looks like it fell out of a construction worker’s back pocket. Apparently that’s what’s trendy nowadays. The bigger the better. I think not. That theory only applies to food and motor engines. Also, when one does actually find a ring that is not too hideous, it costs thousands of rands. Um, no. Not on my salary. But we did manage to find something in between at the end.
As I think back on all the planning, blood, sweat and tears that went into this wedding, I can’t help but think: Is that it? Nine months of planning, driving hundreds of kilometres, totally going over the budget, and overstressing. Not to mention the fact that we were putting in more hours than sweatshop workers. I’m talking about putting together the guest list, finalising the guest list, doing the table placements, re-finalising the guest list and then the decorations!
Being creative and a bit artistic does have its’ pros and cons.
Pro: We could do all our invites, decorations and guest favours ourselves.
Con: We did all the invites, decorations and guest favours ourselves.
Pro: We managed to save money.
Con: What we saved in money, we lost in sleep.
At the end of it all, “Wow”. That’s all we could really say.” Wow”, because we had done all that hard work and spent all that money.” Wow”, because it was all over so quickly. But more importantly, “Wow”, because it was all worth it. It was awesome to say the least.
I will elaborate in the next edition, but for now, let me leave you with my tip of the week:
Have your wedding sometime in the early afternoon.Even though you might think that a sunset ceremony is the most romantic, the fact is that you don’t have time to take enough sunset photos afterwards. Also, we found ourselves running around the whole evening doing all the “admin” work. By the time we had finished, it was 22h30! Some of the guests were already leaving. None the less, it was still awesome, but I strongly recommend extending the day as much as possible, because it goes by so ridiculously quickly.